A Salute to Fathers!
By Kay Gardner, Fairfax Center Director
Battlegrounds are full of struggle and passion—the defeat of death or the triumph of life! At Sanctity of Life Ministries the battleground is observable on a daily basis. Though it is the women whom we more often see in the crosshairs of crisis, the influence of an invested male partner can never be understated—like the young man who recently fought hard for his baby’s life. His uncommon act of courage and persistence countered the rationale of ‘fixing the pregnancy mistake’ through abortion.
The young man spoke winsomely of wanting to be the kind of father that he had never had. A dramatic start had been made earlier in the counseling session when he entrusted his life to the Lord. However, his child was still endangered as the couple contended with one another for the baby’s life—the mother more tempted to solve the ‘problem’ by abortion. Even after she had prayed to receive Christ a few days earlier, fear would revisit and settle in. This prompted the worried father of the baby to call the center; a 2nd ultrasound was quickly agreed upon. That day, our ultrasound nurse, a staff member, the father of the baby and the young woman, who now lay on the gurney, filled the tiny room. All eyes watched the animated screen—-the baby could clearly be seen–floating, moving, LIVING. As the young mother peered at the screen her voice suddenly broke the silence: “I will keep my baby for sure!” Her finality banished uncertainty and smiles appeared around the room. It would be several months later that a tiny boy came with his parents to greet our staff. Peace had surely triumphed…it could be seen in the eyes of a new mother who looked lovingly at her newborn and his young father as well—so committed to be a part of the future. He had embraced the struggle.
As the authors of Fatherhood Aborted have said: “We need to embrace the struggle—the pain of growth—the way an athlete embraces struggle. Because it’s when we stretch to become new men that we begin to see the work of God in us.” (Condon, Guy and David Hazard, Fatherhood Aborted, Tyndale House Publishers, p. 115.)
Our prayer for families is to embrace whatever the plan that God has in place–to stay the course in our family’s life, to ‘stay in the game’ as God intended. The greatest love that was ever told involved sacrifice and commitment. As we meet Him at the Cross we will find renewal and Hope and even resolution that marks any departure from absent, ‘fatherless generations’ of the past.
A ten year study of sixty families that went through divorce produced major emotional fallouts:
- When fathers left the home, their relationship with the children deteriorated badly.
- Even 10 years after a divorce, children felt, ‘less protected, less cared for, less comforted.” They also carried very vivid recollections of the contention between their parents.
- For boys, the loss of a father in the home brought severe consequences to the point of feeling ‘physically painful.’
Your loving support of Sanctity of Life Ministries fosters the miracle of transformation. We celebrate the triumph of life with you even as we gaze upon outstretched fields before us. In this niche of very special ministry, the fields are teeming with the promise of new harvest—Life in Christ and Life in the Womb. We thank God for you. Together we are making a difference!